5/21/2023 0 Comments Fork in the road![]() How do you learn from an event? How do you apply that learning in a way that is useful to you, so you aren’t paralysed by that fork in the road? The three pillars are about how effectively you learn from every situation. In an earlier blog post, I talked about the three pillars of resilience: EQ (emotional intelligence), IQ (intelligence quotient) and LQ (learning quotient). I believe at the core of this is the need to develop resilience and understand what resilience is. So, how do we actively forge a different path? How do we, as Maxwell says, fail forward, so it becomes a more useful experience? ![]() As the great Winston Churchill said, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” And author and leadership expert John Maxwell says, “Fail early, fail often, but always fail forward.” Many wise men and women have observed that failure is a stepping stone to moving forward. But we do have the choice to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and chart a new path. I’m not saying choices can’t have significant and lasting impacts. I know I have had to address this particular un-truth. This is something we need to really think about and confront inside ourselves. One “fail” does not mean we are a failure, and it does not mean we can’t turn that fail around. If we fail, we believe it is something we can never change. When we perceive the fork in the road as a choice between a “right” turn and a “wrong” turn, one choice being successful and one being failure, we consider our choice to be final. Many of us have chosen to incorporate these “truths” into our story. I would offer that it’s because of the stories we tell ourselves the things we hold as truths. So, with this knowledge around brain plasticity and change, why do we get stuck in the past, at this binary fork in the road? “It’s never too early or too late to work towards being the healthiest you.” There are myriad ways to manage our health better – all it takes is that first step. We now know more than ever before about how our body reacts to the food we fuel it with and to exercise. Past choices or consequences do not solely define your future pathways. Therefore, I would argue we can make new decisions and choose new behaviours. A choice we cannot change.Īnd because of that, after the decision point, we often tell ourselves, “I can never be, I can never do, I will never be able to do.” These statements then become the stories people live their lives by.Īnd yet, there’s a world of science that shows us not only can we physically change our bodies, we can change our brains. But too often, we see that fork as a single pivotal choice, to be made in one window of time, forever immutable. Some decisions do lead to challenging or wonderful outcomes. We should recognise that and respect those truly “binary” times. ![]() It’s true that some forks in the road are significant. You often hear people reminisce, “If only I’d made that choice instead of this one, my life would be different now.” You have probably thought this about a decision you’ve made. The decision we make will be either right or wrong it will lead us to a negative outcome or a great one. That is, there are two choices, two possibilities. We tend to see forks appear because we are conditioned to think in a binary fashion. Sometimes, they even look a lot like the one in the Muppets! While this was all in plain good fun, I think each of us has experienced a metaphorical fork in the road many times throughout our lives. One of the Muppets says, “There’s a fork in the road!” And the next thing you know, a large fork appears, right in the middle of the road. ![]() In one scene, they’re driving along in a car, looking at the map. Yes, I’m an unabashed Jim Henson fan!Īs a kid, I remember watching one of the Muppets movies. ![]()
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